I’m Back!!!

Hello everyone! I am sure you all know what has been going on in my life. Just to catch you up to speed, following the separation from my partner, my son and I are now living with my parents, trying to get back on our feet. I have taken a few weeks off of blogging, just to let myself heal, and get myself back into the right frame of mind. I have never needed to follow my own guidelines as much as what I have had to in the last 6 weeks.

But I am back ladies and gentlemen! And I hope that you all have been staying happy while I have been gone, and practising all of the things that I have taught you over the past few months. I have certainly missed you all and can’t wait to start sharing with you again. The one thing that has gotten me through all of this has been my son. I have turned to him for strength. And I couldn’t have done it without him. Especially with all of the nasty emotions that have been running through me lately; sadness, guilt, rejection, disappointment, they are all awful things to be feeling, so I have decided it is time to replace them with some awesome feelings like happiness, excitement, love, joy.

So tonight I will leave you with a question. What do you do to lift yourself up when you are feeling down? How do you change your feelings from bad to good? Share with us, and let us all learn from each other how to cope with the blue periods in our lives.

My Three Goals

Goal setting; you either like the idea, or you don’t. Goal setting is just that. Setting yourself a goal to achieve, mapping out how you are going to get there, and working through the steps to achieving your goal. Experts say that breaking projects down into smaller chunks makes them more managable and less overwhelming. The same applies to goal setting. Lets say, for instance, that your goal is to lose 10kg. The steps to achieving this goal could be as follows:

  • Throw out all junk food in your pantry to stop temtation
  • Come up with a new menu plan. Research some yummy, healthy recipes and fill your cupboard with delicious and healthy snacks
  • Create an exercise regime or hire a personal trainer
  • Put your plans into action

Set yourself a realistic timeframe. If you allow yourself to lose maybe half a kilo per week, it would take you 20 weeks, or roughly 5 months to achieve your goal. If you manage to achieve it in less time, then thats just great!

So now I am going to be brave, and list my three goals. This is the first time I have ever set myself goals so I am a little nervous!

  • Become fit and healthy

I am going to use the same plan as in my example above for this goal, but the only difference is I am not trying to lose weight. I am going to give myself a timmeline of 3 months to be fit, healthy and (hopefully) not falling off the bandwagon!

  • Have a more open mind and more patience when it comes to other people

I am going to research diffusion techniques, and practice using my patience when it comes to other people. I am going to give myself a timeline of 2 months to having a more open mind, which I believe is one of the most important things that is most required to be happy.

  • Become more organised (especially with my time)

I am naturally a pretty organised person. I love it, and I have many systems in place. My problem is organizing my time. I don’t seem to have the time to use and follow my systems! Now that it is just going to be me and my son, it is going to be much easier to implement new systems, and follow them. I am going to start with organizing my time, as it will be very hard to organize my environment when I will be living in my parents house, sharing a room with my sister! I am going to buy myself a pretty little diary (one that I will love, and want to use), work out what regular activities need to be done, and include things like housework, grocery shopping, etc. Choosing a specific day and time of the week means that I can arrange day around these things. I will ensure to check my diary every morning, and at least once in the middle of the day, to make sure that I don’t miss or forget things.

So these are my three goals. There are so many more that I want to achieve, but I thought three was a good number to start out with, so as not to overwhelm myself. I will keep you all updated on my progress. In the meantime, please tell, do you set goals? Do you achieve them?




Stressed Out!

Q: What is Stress? A: Stress is a normal physical and mental response to what you consider to be an emergency or challenging situation. Stress produces chemicals in your body that raise your heart rate and blood pressure. It is a very normal and sometimes effective coping mechanism, particularly if you are in a dangerous situation. Stress becomes unhealthy when It lingers, and you allow yourself to feel stressed regularly over situations that do not require it.

I can be a bit of a stresser myself (such a technical word, stresser!) Luckily, there are many things that you can do to help reduce your stress levels. I have covered some of these in previous posts, such as positivity, taking time out for yourself and staying organised, so I won’t bore you with those details. But there are others. Exercise is a HUGE help for stress. Yoga, Pilates, walking, running, boxing. All of these are especially good for helping with stress. Breathing exercises such as meditation. I was always so skeptical of meditation until I tried it for myself, and you know what? It actually worked! Chrissie is proven wrong again!

If all of these techniques fail, there is always professional help. Counsellors are available for those who feel like their stress levels just don’t ever seem to drop. If you have been through a traumatic experience or you may possibly be grieving, a counsellor is also a good option.

Remember that stress can be a good thing, but when it’s hanging around like a bad smell it can take it’s toll on you physically and emotionally. And this of course means that it can affect your happiness. And we certainly don’t want that! Make sure you sign up for email notifications so you don’t miss a post, and keep smiling!

Your Inner Child

After spending some much needed time at the playground with my boy today, I have realised that I still have that inner child that needs to come out and play. Come on, admit it. You have one too! The joy of watching Aiden’s face as he was on the swing gave me so much excitement. Helping him down the slide. It was my chance to forget about the world and just play!

There are so many things that you can do to bring out your inner child, to take you back to a time when everything was simple, and you didn’t have a care in the world. Painting with your child, play dress ups, role play, chasey is one of our favourites. Poor little guy doesn’t stand a chance when all he do is crawl! But he just loves being caught and tickled and starting all over again. Take the time out of your busy day to play with your children. They will thank you for it, and I guarantee you will feel so much better. Even if you are only pushing them around on their bike (or in my case, a ride on car), or jumping on the trampoline with them. You are NEVER to old to have fun with your kids.

So there is one other, very enjoyable and worthwhile thing that you can do to help maintain happiness. Spend some time with your kids, play games, make a fool of yourself and laugh often with them. I know that it is something that I will be making sure I take the time to do. What do you do with your children that makes you and them so happy?

10 Things About Me!

So I have been tagged in the “10 things” game by the lovely Laura at Spotty Owl Design. So here is 10 things about me!

1. I have an iced coffee adiction. Funnily enough I really don’t like regular coffee, but could absolutely live off of iced coffee. 3 years ago I gave it up as a part of a bet, and didn’t drink it for about 6 months following, but silly me I started again, and now I am trying to give it up again.

2. I secretly love the kids show The Wot Wots. I think that it is absolutely adorable and love that my boy loves it just as much as I do (well, maybe not quite as much!)

3. I have a handbag fetish. I can’t help it, handbags and purses seem to breed in my wardrobe, or maybe its just me bringing them home every couple of months!

4. I am supposed to wear glasses. Vision in my left eye is extremely blurry, and my right eye is only a little better. I keep telling myself that I am going to start wearing them, but I can’t help feel like I look nerdy, so always conveniently “forget” my glasses when I go anywhere.

5. I have an iPod, iPhone and an iPad. Don’t ask me why, but I use each and every one of them! I love the convenience of being able to sync the iPhone and iPad, and I use my iPod so that I don’t clog up my phone with all of my music.

6. I have 2 older sisters. My eldest sister has 1 girl and 1 boy, and my middle sister has 1 boy. This has made me an auntie from the age of 10. So you could say that I had a lot of practice with children by the time my little munchkin came along!

7. Although I am a little embarassed and ashamed to admit it given their performance last season, I am a Port Power supporter. I cannot wait til my boy’s old enough to come and watch games with me.

8. I love to laugh. I believe that laughter is the best medicine.

9. I work for Spotlight part time. I started out in the manchester/home decor department as 2nd in charge, and I now work “behind the scenes” doing administration, looking after home orders and also helping out in receiving/despatch. I struggle to leave work every day without taking bags full of stuff with me!

10. This one is a little secret. I have no idea what I’m doing when it comes to blogging! I am trying to get the hang of things every day so everybody please be gentle with me!

So now I have played the 10 things game. I know I am supposed to tag, but I everybody seems to have already played!

Everything Happens For a Reason

Everything happens for a reason. These five words have been swimming through my head for the last week. It is what I keep telling myself to help soften the blow. It is what I will keep telling myself as I pack mine, and my son’s things ready to move in to my mother’s house. This has been one of the hardest decisions that I have had to make, but I have made the decision for the good of my son, myself and our lives. I am leaving my whole life behind ready to start a whole new one.

Therefore this has been the perfect opportunity for me to practice everything that I have been preaching to you over the last month. I can’t deny that I am just a little excited about embarking on a new adventure, a whole new life. I also can’t deny that I am a little scared about being on my own. But such is life. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. I don’t necessarily need to understand what that reason is, just to know that there is one. I have to believe it to stay strong, as staying strong is the most important thing for my son.

An Organized Life

Organization is a bit of a passion of mine. Whether it be organizing my house, my calender, my car, handbag or purse, or anything else I can find to organize, I just love it! Having said that, it does not mean that I am great at it, so even I can use a few pointers every now and then! Organizing your life (the environment around you, your time etc) helps to reduce your stress levels. It can mean you are not running around in the morning , late for work and yet you can not find your keys anywhere (for me it’s always my sunglasses). It can mean not double-booking your diary, managing your time efficiently so that things get done. All of this means less stress on your part, which of course means you have more time to be happy!

I have decided to do an overall post on organization, but will do more in depth posts every now and then, just to help us all along throughout our lives.

A really good place to start is in your home. Clear out the clutter, even if its only one drawer or cupboard or room at a time. I use the 12 month rule of thumb. Is it something you love? Have you used it in the last 12 months? If the answer is no then chances are, you probably won’t miss it. If you are doing a big purge, usually I consider that to be at least one room at a time, I like to have 3 boxes, or garbage bags, 1 for trash, 1 for give away, 1 to sell. I keep a tub in my office with things to sell on line in it, that way, when I am ready to list something, I just choose from box, and its all in one place!

Once you have done a really good purge, and cleared out alot of the rubbish and clutter. It’s time to create a home for everything. If it doesn’t fit in the room, it doesn’t stay there. That doesn’t mean that you can move the coffee machine to a shelf in the loungeroom because it won’t fit in your appliances cupboard! If you have things that need to be organized (for me its my office, filing, DVDs, etc) work out a system, or spend a bit of time on google, and find one that you think will work for you.

Another good thing to start doing is organizing your time. Decide whether you would prefer using an electronic diary (like on your phone or tablet) or find yourself a pretty organizer or dayplanner. Make sure that you put in any regular appointments, and make sure that you keep using your diary. There’s no point in having one, if you’re not going to write appointements in there. And there’s no point in writing appointments in it, if you’re not going to check it daily.

So this is just a few things that I do just to start you off (although I still need help with managing my calender and diary!). I will write more in the months to come, so if there is something you would like to read about, please say so! And where are you going to start organizing your life?

Be still, my hectic life!

How hectic life can be sometimes! I feel like I have barely had time to sit down with a nice drink and just relax! I have been keeping busy with play dates, work, running my business, and running a household. It can be a little hard to remember my own happiness in all of this. Time for me to relax. This is where I sit down and blog! I must admit blogging has been my little outlet, some time just for me. I get to shut off from the world in my little home office for awhile.

All of it is worth it in the end, when I get closer to getting my business to a point where I can leave my job and stay at home full time with my son, when I see the smile on his face as he drowns in the ball pit at the local play cafe with his little friend, and when I collapse into bed at night, knowing that I have a fiancee who loves and would do anything for our family.

There are definitely a few things that I need to work on to make these hectic times a little easier on myself. Taking a little time out each day to remind myself why I am doing this, and focusing on the end result. Eating healthier (soooo not my strong point!) so that I have the energy to cope with the busy days. Also, enlisting in the help of others, when I don’t have the time to make deliveries because I have to work, asking my partner to do it for me.

How hectic is your life, and how do you cope with stressful times?

Time for yourself is time well spent!

How many people out there actually take time for themselves, to pursue a hobby, exercise, read a book, or even just have a bubble bath like Miss Boop? I doubt that there would be many of us. My life is pretty hectic at the moment. Between trying to get my business up and running, working part time, planning my sons first birthday and trying to keep a relatively clean house, I have had NO time to do anything that I like to do. I haven’t been for a walk around my suburb with my iPod blaring in about two weeks. My scrapbooking hasn’t been touched for months. I have also been living off of takeaway food for about two months (I know, its terrible!).

We are all guilty of letting life get in the way at one time or another. This is especially true for those of us with children. I can only imagine how much more difficult it is going to get once my son hits school and begins after school activities! I blame the woman in us. It’s in our nature to always put everybody first. Even if that means taking no time out to do the things you like, or need to do. Unfortunately this doing nothing for our health or sanity. We need our own chill time, and hobbies are a great way to relax. I scrapbook, but maybe crafts aren’t your thing. There are plenty of hobbies out there, just waiting for you to discover them and use them as a way to unwind. Try taking up a sport. I always wanted to join a netball team, but gave up on the idea when I had my son. Other hobbies include writing, reading, drawing, cooking or baking, going to the gym, knitting or cross stitch. This is just a few of so many things that you could try!

Exercise is also an extremely important thing to fit into your day. Even just a brisk walk after work. Do you have a dog? Well I’m sure that the dog would love to accompany you, and it’s a great way to make yourself think that your doing something for someone else (that woman thing again), because the dog needs to be walked! If you have a little bit more time on your hands, join the gym. Talk a friend into joining with you, which would give you some time out socially as well. Most gyms these days have a creche, so you can’t use the “no babysitter” excuse anymore!

And finally, take the time to do something good for yourself. Get a massage, a facial or have your hair and nails done. Every six weeks I spend about three hours in the salon having my hair cut and coloured. And I make sure I book the next one that day so that I have no excuses. That time is just divine. I relax while they wash my hair (the scalp massage is the best!), and for a few hours I don’t have to think about anything. If you can’t spare that time on a regular basis, at the very least take the time for regular bubble baths. Buy yourself one of those packet facial masks, light some candles and just relax in the tub. Make sure that hubby has the kids, or they’re in bed otherwise you will probably spend the whole bath worrying what they are doing or yelling at them through the door, which completely defeats the purpose!

Taking time out for yourself is one of the best things that you can do for yourself, and your family. It makes sense when you think about it. You are more relaxed and happy, which means that your family are happier. Everyone knows how the household runs and the hubby and kids behave when there is a frazzled, exhausted and angry woman living there. So do yourself and your family a favour and start taking regular time for yourself. I will be!

Happiness is…

To me happiness is found in the simplest of things. A successful day, a giggle and kiss with my son, a joke shared with my partner, even just a yummy dinner! I have had many things to be happy about over the last few days, and many more over the coming days. I had a very successful day promoting my business, I have caught up on all my work at my part time job, My son turns one in three days, and then of course, I have the birthday party for him, where all of our family and friends will be there to celebrate with us and spoil him rotton.

When I googled the definition of happiness this is what I found: state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Finding this definition made me wonder, what brings me joy? What do I like, and what do I like to do? My family bring me joy. My son and partner’s smiles laughs and cuddles. I have two nephews and a niece whom I love spending time with. They always keep things interesting. I love to scrapbook, although I haven’t done a whole lot of it since having my son (more on this next post!). Walking with my iPod loaded with my favourite music is my escape, and something I do often. Spending time with my friends is also something I love to do, but unfortunately with everybody’s busy lives, it is also something that doesn’t happen as often as I would like it to.

So these are some of the things that bring me joy, that make me feel happy and that I love to do. Mind you, this list is actually a whole lot longer, I just cut it right down for you! To me, these things and more, are my definition of happiness. Everybody’s definition will be different. Please share yours with us, I would love to know what your definition of happiness is.